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In need of a self-esteem boost?

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In need of a self-esteem boost? Look no further. Here are three easy ways to kick start your self-esteem into action. To be able to go through your days feeling lots better about you. A life where you stop feeling rubbish about yourself and dare to follow your dreams. A life where you do not fear rejection and are able to you say ‘yes’ to new opportunities. A life where you feel you live to your full potential and feel good about what you accomplish.

Have you been feeling low and lousy about yourself and your lifestyle lately? Low self esteem can make you feel like driving through life with your hand brake on. Let’s have a closer look at some practical tips how to release that hand brake and go through daily life smoothly, with a spring in your step and a smile on your face.

Here are my three simple tips to start raising and maintaining your self-esteem.


  1. Start a daily self-appreciation journal.

It is so easy to get lost in your own negative train of thoughts, which will only lower your esteem. A way to break this unhealthy habit is to start your day writing down 3 to 5 things you do appreciate about yourself. Don’t just write down your accomplishments. Be sure you write down all your good things and traits. For example your sense of humour or your wisdom. Things like your creativity, or how you can tackle juggling home life with your work load. Make sure to write them down every morning before you start your day. Whether you do this in a little dairy or on your mobile phone in your Notes or Google calendar, it doesn’t matter. By shedding a light on your positives instead of the negatives, you will start your day with a healthy dose of  self love and appreciation. You will help yourself fight low self esteem in an easy healthy way. Keep doing this for the next month. See how your list of self-appreciation grows.  When you are feeling a bit low or doubt yourself, read back to remind yourself how many good traits and strengths you possess by just being the authentic you.


  1. Be kind to others and yourself

If you are able to be kind and less judgemental towards others, you will be able to be kinder to and more understanding of yourself too. Ask yourself when you are aware of judging others or yourself why you are doing this? What are the benefits of being judgemental? Why do you think this person behaves like that? Would you behave like that if you were in that person’s shoes? Break your judgement down. Is this still relevant and important in 5 years? If not use the 5 by 5 rule. If it’s not going to matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes upset by it. Try and let go. Give yourself and others those compliments.

Give yourself and others credit for the things achieved. Allow yourself a mental break and do something that makes you happy. Whether it’s reading a book, listening to music, going for a walk around the block or ring a friend. All these things add up to improve your self-esteem.  Give it a go. Absolutely nothing to lose. Just lots of positive vibes that will make you feel so much better about yourself and the people around you.


  1. Tackle your inner critic.

We all have that inner critic. Although the inner critic’s voice can be beneficial to spur you on to get things done, having lots of negative thoughts can seriously damage your self esteem. Damaging thoughts like: You are not good enough; You will never be able to do that; I am too ugly, fat, stupid etc.  Talk back to this inner critic. Challenge that inner critic. It’s quite simple to tackle the inner critic. Just create a stop word in your mind. So whenever you hear yourself talking down at you, use the simple word: “Stop!” Or challenge your train of thoughts and say: No, we are not going there! Try and find one stop word or phrase that might work for you. Find a way to be able to laugh at that silly inner critic’s voice. If you start practising this technique on a daily basis, I am confident your inner critic will be bothering you less and less.

Remember lovelies, talk to yourself like you would to someone you love. Self care really isn’t selfish. It’s called self-esteem and your happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people. And don’t ever doubt your worth! If you start thinking positive thoughts now, positive things will start to happen.

Be kind always!

Lots of love, Essy xxx

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